Hi,
Probably irrelevant, but that's never stopped me. I trust Wittsend to delete me if I go to far.
When I met Barbara, she was an Executive Officer in Customs and Excise, but resigned so she could join me in Malaya, where she got herself pregnant. Our daughter was born in Eastbourne, but is now a bank manager at Head Office in Milton Keynes.
Barbara returned to work, sitting at the same desk ... and "Lo!" ... she got herself pregnant again, She resigned again. She refused to take the paid "Maternity Leave" option when she knew she did not expect to return to work. I think she was brought up "all wrong".
Come the first Property Boom, we sold our house in Caterham, (doubled in value in four years) and headed for her parents house, in Swansea, in a £10 Triumph Herald convertible, and a brand new Moskvitch van towing a brand new Sprite Alpine 12ft caravan. A memorable journey, as Barbara and a police sergeant spent about twenty minutes arguing, while standing in the middle lane of the M4, traffic passing both sides, albeit, slowly. It ended with the Sergeant telling me to get my wife out of his sight. An offer too good to refuse.
"MOVE IT!" I said, manfully. And she did.
We'd already put a deposit on a new bungalow on the outskirts of Swansea, but it would would be six months before it would be completed, We decided to take the caravan, and tour Scotland for a few months. While Barbara was loading the caravan, I wandered into the embryonic DVLC building, and asked about the chances of a job, when we returned from Scotland. I started work as a Clerical Officer, the following Monday.
We never did buy that bungalow, and quite a few years before we toured Scotland. It took me two years to become an Executive Officer.
Once the (now two) kids started school, Barbara joined me at DVLA, again retaining her previous Civil Service EO grade, pay scale, and seniority. she was later promoted to HEO. I took medical retirement in 1985, and Barbara passed a promotion board to SEO ....
... but the Director
demanded that she represented DVLA on a Deputy Prime Ministers "Task Force" in her present grade. She retired in 2002.
I know my place.
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PS, My brother-in-law was an HEO Press Officer with MoD.(now freelance journalist) He was considered to be equivalent status to an Army Major / RAF Squadron Leader / Royal Navy Commander. Does that mean Barbara was the same rank as James Bond?
Actually, my BiL thinks the "equivalent" rank was only used to decide where he sat at the dining table in the Officer's Mess.